We all heard the term emotion IQ. What does it really mean?
It’s about being aware and present to our emotions. Understanding we are not our emotions or controlled by them.
In the book the Power of Now, author Eckart Tolle puts this into perfect perspective through his duck example:
Eckart spends time at a pond and observes the ducks floating in the water. He notices two ducks paddling in the water, and then they collide with each other. After the collision, the two ducks fight with each other violently for a few moments.
When the fight ends, both ducks paddle their separate ways. As they paddle away the ducks flap their wings enthusiastically 4 or 5 times. Then, there is a sense of calm again with each duck. As if nothing happened.
What the flapping was after the fight was a release of energy, or EMOTION. The ducks naturally, instinctively removed any tension that was caused by the encounter.
This is the lesson. We as humans must be able to do the same: Let go. Release the emotion that does not help us. Release the negativity energy, when a “duck fight” occurs in our lives.
So many people on this Earth suppress negative energy, and create a self around that energy. When our negative emotions control us, there is no room for growth or inner peace.
Holding a grudge is type of suppressed emotion. When we hold grudges against someone, we are really just reinforcing negative emotion that follows us like a dark cloud.
Forgive. Forgive anyone who has done wrong against you. Tell yourself, “The person was doing the best they could, at that time, I forgive them.” And forgive yourself, as well.
Let go. A grudge is a waste of resources and time.
Abraham Lincoln understood the power of letting go. He said once, “I am in favor of a short statue of limitations in politics.” It was never about himself, or his ego, or his pride. He turned enemies into allies, because he was able to let go.
So, next time you get into a “duck fight” in your life – flap your wings 3 or 4 times. And continue to live your life without blame.
The Time Is Now.
Resources: The Time Is Now, by Eckart Tolle
“Lincoln To The Rescue” – By David Von Drehle, Time Magazine, Nov 2012